As a parent, if you face divorce or separation, the impact on your child is one of your main concerns because you know that your child, as well as you, feels the stress and confusion of this difficult time in your lives.
Many children feel angry, sad or frustrated about the prospect of their parents splitting up and are uncertain what life will be like afterwards.
You can influence the impact on your child by focusing on your ability to:
- Communicate successfully with your child.
- Meet their needs for safety, security and support.
- Take care of yourself.
- Maintain a civil relationship with your ex.
These things will all have a positive effect on your child. Given the right support, your child will be able express their feelings and grieve their loss. They will be better able to emerge from this unsettling time stronger, and more resilient.
Sometimes it can be helpful to involve children directly in the mediation process: use this link to read about child-inclusive mediation
Family mediation helps parents stay in touch with their child after separation or divorce because it increases their ability to communicate with each other. That doesn’t mean parents have to be close with each other after they separate.
However you feel about your ex, you both remain parents to your child, regardless of your new situation. If you are to ensure your child grows up with a positive relationship with both of you, that means shaping a completely different relationship with your ex. One that some people compare to having a ‘business’ relationship, where the focus is your joint parenting responsibilities.
Studies have found that parents who attend family mediation rather than court after divorce have significantly better long-term relationships with their children.
Children don’t like to take sides and NFM’s expert mediators don’t take sides either. They are all trained to talk to children whose parents are going through divorce. So it may help them and you to find out more about child inclusive mediation.
If you want to know more about how family mediation can help you take the next steps in your life after separation or divorce use this link.
You can find your nearest NFM family mediator here.
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REMEMBER – THINGS WILL GET BETTER
Parents rarely stay angry with each other forever and family mediation will help them move on with their lives as separated parents.
If you want to know more about how family mediation can help people who are splitting up click here.