Homes for Ukraine
Hosts & Guests – Developing Communication & Relationships
We all know the challenges the Ukrainians are facing and for many, their only option has been to flee their homes and their families to find safety.
Many families both British and Ukrainian have generously stepped forward to offer homes to Ukrainians as hosts to those in need. Having negotiated the difficulties of visas and travel and once the dust settles from the upheaval, families are now dealing with the reality of sharing their homes and spaces. Living with anyone is not easy at the best of times and most things have to be negotiated so that a comfortable compromise for peaceful coexistence can emerge. Add into the mix language barriers, cultural differences, new family constructs and financial pressures and there is a recipe for those well-intentioned actions to quickly deteriorate as communication problems prevent the growth of understanding and mutual support.
Neither side of this equation wants their hard work in building this new relationship to break down but there will be inevitable stresses and strains along the way. Being unable to communicate is likely to be the biggest cause of tension and will fuel what might otherwise be simple problems that can be resolved amicably.
As the largest family mediation provider in England and Wales NFM understands only too well the benefit good communication and agreement can bring to any relationship.
That is why National Family Mediation and the Association for Family Mediators of Ukraine have come together to offer a free confidential service to Ukrainians and their hosts.
On this page, we will provide help and advice for households by asking you to share your experiences and tips of what has helped you that might help others in a similar position.
This survey has been created by one of the hosts, psychotherapist Fiona Biddle and one of the guests, family mediator Svitlana Stadnyk. The survey is anonymous: you will not be identified when you complete it so please feel free to say exactly what you like. They will extract themes from what you write and pull them together to create some informal, and hopefully helpful, hints and tips to support everyone through this process.
To enable us to collate your experiences and advice please complete this short survey. We will then collate these over the next few weeks and share them on this page.
If you are a host or a Ukrainian guest and feel that you may need a hand in communication, or even think that living together was a mistake, then NFM has teamed up with 4 Ukrainian mediators who will offer a free consultation to any household with issues, however large or small, where communication is a barrier that is creating conflict. You will each be able to have a separate meeting with the mediator followed by a meeting together, hosted by the Ukrainian mediator, who will work with you to resolve your communication problems and allow you to develop guidelines for living together peacefully. The mediators are Ukrainian guests themselves and speak English & Ukrainian and will be able to translate your discussions to facilitate reaching a resolution.
Of course, as Ukrainian mediators are guests and mothers themselves, their time is limited but they will do their best to help anyone who needs it.
If you think it would be helpful to set up a meeting with a mediator please provide us with your contact information by completing the referral form below. All we ask in return for this free service is that you complete our feedback questionnaire at the end of your meetings.
And don’t forget to bookmark this page and return to see the advice shared with us over the coming weeks.
Advice for Hosts & Guests…..
We will be populating this section with the advice we receive so please come back soon.